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Since Becoming A Dad…

I have learned the following lessons in the past six months, not including seminary:

  • You never know how selfish you are until another selfish person is in the room. And I am very, very selfish.
  • It takes a long time and a lot of repetitions before we know and respond to our name.
  • I will never describe women as the weaker sex (if I ever have) in the future. Never. Observing motherhood from where I now sit has been incredibly humbling.
  • People who bring meals to new parents are absolute angels. We were visited a number of times and we will not forget it.
  • Parenthood is both incredibly hard and incredibly wonderful sometimes simultaneously, but always indivisibly. In Hebrew, it can be described in the same word, but in English, these words carry separate meanings. And if you ask me how like being a new dad, this is why I can sound bipolar.
  • I never realized or gave much thought to the fact that all the things I do now: staying up late to feed, waking up at every cry, spending hours in a day rocking her to sleep, preparing food, buying diapers, aspirating snot from little nostrils, giving up time with friends, and much more; all this my parents did for me. Thanks Mom and Dad.
  • Human beings and their babies are not rational creatures. The less food and the less sleep, the less rational.
  • Men should learn to cook, at least a few meals. Start with tacos and marinated chicken. And my Asian brothers, learn to cook rice right. Ramen is no longer an option at the father-level.
  • Love is a language with no words.
  • I would take a bullet for my little girl who has yet to say a single word or take a single step. You can have my house, my car, all my belongings, but I would only let her go over my dead body, which makes me realize that God loves me more than I love my own daughter. He gave up his begotten son, Jesus, so that we might be reconciled to him. Unbelievable.

I’ll have more lessons, I’m sure, in upcoming months. Enjoy~

About David Park

Christian 2nd-generation Korean American; Atlanta Georgia; more details to come.

3 responses to “Since Becoming A Dad…

  1. Katie ⋅

    One day my little boy, Issac asked me ” Mom do you love me? ” When I answered yes he said ” Then, Mom could you explain to me why God loves me?”
    It was a kind of awe moment for me.
    I admit there are (sometimes me too) horrible parents,but yes, having my son gave me a little glimpse of why God loves me.
    Happy Chusuk David.

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  3. djchuang

    Wonderful reflections, good to hear how you’re being shaped into a loving Dad, and the appreciation of life beautiful.

    Re: cooking, I’ve found spaghetti and sauce to be one of the easier things to cook. And, you were the one who introduced me to Zatarain’s – way better than Hamburger Helper.

    And, lastly, you may sound bipolar, but I’ve been diagnosed as such 🙂

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